Bridesmaidzillas! Dealing With Conflict Within Your Bridal Party.
Whenever anyone hears about drama within the bridal party, they will often assume that the bride is having a "bridezilla" moment. But often times, a lot of drama and frustration is caused by the girls in the bridal party! You know what I'm talking about! I say bridesmaids because...well...let's face it, men don't have as many disagreements and cattiness as some women do. Even though they all love you and want to be there for you on your special day, there is no telling what could happen when so many women, with different personalities come together to plan something. Yikes! How to handle conflict. One thing that you have to remember is that you cannot take it personal. Some people just don't see eye to eye with others and that is ok. The opinions and conflicts that they're having does not reflect the special relationship that you share with each individual BM. Remember why you picked them! Never pick sides. Drama will almost always happen, but as the bride, it's so important to stay out of the conflict. It is best to stay neutral and not get involved. You don't want to make it seem like you're ganging up on one or the other. After the wedding, your relationship will hopefully go back to the way it was before you introduced all of the girls and getting involved may ruin any chance of continuing your friendship, especially if one feels like you took the other ones side. Be a good listener. Some of their issues may be valid. You want to listen and come up with a solution together. Mediate the situation and make sure that the differences are put aside, at least until the wedding is over. Keep in mind that sometimes it's not all about a resolution, a girl just needs to vent! Have a heart to heart. If it starts to seriously get out of control, you'll need to become the mediator. Sit them down individually hear what they have to say, then have a little group meeting to address the situation. Sometimes it's all just a matter of a misunderstanding. Have them hash it out to see what is really going on. Less is more! Avoiding conflict will be much easier if you have a smaller party to deal with. Keep old flames away from each other. If one of your girls dated one of the other bridesmaids or groomsmen, then it is safe to say that you should definitely keep them away from each other to avoid any conflicts/hurt feelings. Fairness. Arguing over money will almost always be the main reason the bridal party argues. If one girl is refusing to pay, or isn't holding up her end of the bargain, speak to her about it, privately. Confirm with all of the girls that all types of budgets are being considered before making any solid plans. What may seem like a difficult bridesmaid, may actually just be stress over not being able to spend any more money. Choose your MOH wisely. This is your wedding! You're busy planning, working, and working through your own wedding planning frustrations. Your Maid of Honor should be level headed and able to handle the stress from the bridal party. An awesome MOH will ensure that all conflict is resolved within the group before coming directly to you about it. Pick the right girls, but remember that some issues may arise. This doesn't doom your friendships forever! It's a little bump in the road. Wife and mother of two young children, Von Marie Moniz is the Event Planner and Owner of Lovely Events by Von. Clients love her bubbly personality and attention to detail. Planning is what she does, relaxing and enjoying yourself is what you will be doing when you hire Von for your next event. #wedding #bride #groom #groomsmen #bridalparty #bridesmaids #2018 #girls #women #party #friendships #moh #maidofhonor