COVID-19 vs Your Wedding: Planning your Wedding During a Pandemic.
Wedding planning is already stressful enough, but throw in a pandemic and the normal pre-wedding jitters are now so small compared to how the Coronavirus may impact your big day. There is so much running through a couples mind right now. Invites have already been mailed. Should you postpone your wedding? Is it so bad if you still have a wedding even though we’ve all been advised to practice social distancing? What’s the best way to handle all of this and how will you be able to prepare? As of March 15 2020, the CDC has recommended that all large gatherings be postponed for the next eight weeks. So if your wedding is in June then you may not have anything to worry about, but it does help to have a plan B just in case. (Read more about the CDC statement here) The most important thing to remember is that having open and honest conversations with all vendors is going to be crucial. Stay up to date with the news as it pertains to large gatherings and do not stress out about any of this! This is something that we have never dealt with before, so of course it is scary, but it also means that vendors will try their hardest to accommodate for your new date. So what should you do? If you’re getting married after May - I am not recommending that you postpone your wedding as of right now but it doesn’t hurt to talk with your venue to see what your options are as far as dates. I would recommend keeping the new date to late 2020 or early 2021 if you can. Because there are so many couples that may need to postpone their wedding, you may also find yourself getting married on a day other than a Friday, Saturday or Sunday. It’s ok! The day doesn't matter, although a weekday wedding is going to save you money, what matters most is that you get to celebrate with your closest family and friends. Keep your vendors in the loop - After you speak to the venue contact your vendors and have an open and honest conversation with them. Talk about possibly needing to postpone, cancellation and rescheduling policies. You have to remember that this is all new for EVERYONE. It’s ok to not have a clear answer right now, as long as it’s all worked out in a reasonable amount of time. Keep them updated on any future date that you are looking into and come up with a plan on when a tough decision will need to be made. Keep your guests in the loop - If you have a wedding website, Facebook or Instagram, this would be a great time to update your guests with what the backup plan is. Your guests will have questions and it is good to be proactive. Let them know that you’ve been watching the news closely and you know things are crazy right now but you will update them as soon as you guys figure things out yourselves. If you’re able to give them a timeframe of when you will inform your guests about a possible postponement. Keep that line of communication open at all times! Consider a Virtual Ceremony - If you’d like to keep your original ceremony date, it’s not a bad idea to live stream or zoom in your friends and family for the ceremony and then have your big reception after the pandemic. Talk to your officiant to see if they are up to it, I'm sure they will be! Plan for a smaller guest count - Some may not be able to make it to your backup date and others may still be afraid of flying and getting sick, and that’s ok. Try to focus on the positives and don't worry so much about the things that are out of your control. Hold off on major decisions - If you’re getting married in 2021, it is best to hold off on any major decisions right now. Things are so uncertain at this time but there’s plenty of time to plan for 2021. Keep doing your research just hold off on putting any large deposits down until we get a better feel of what the rest of year will bring. Hire a planner - Now is the perfect time to hire a planner. We are here to help when things get crazy. If you’re postponing your wedding, we will be here to help you figure out all vendors' situations and to guide you on the next steps. We will also be here to listen and let you vent when things get hard. I know that it is easier said than done, but don’t stress out! I promise, you are not alone in this. Reach out to your vendors, wedding Facebook groups, friends and family members. We will get through this together. Your big day is coming, it just may take a little longer than expected. Whatever you do, keep it positive and always remember... Keep Calm, Stay Lovely, Party on!! xoxo, Von Marie Von Marie Moniz is the Owner and DIY Wedding Planning Guru of Lovely Events by Von and Co-Founder of The DIY Blushing Bride. Lovely Events by Von is all about empowering couples throughout their wedding planning journey by providing a fun, straightforward and stress free approach to the wedding planning process all while helping couples navigate through the overwhelming chaos that is DIY, Pinterest and YouTube videos so that when your day comes, you'll be able to keep calm, stay lovely, party on and enjoy YOUR wedding day!