Creating the Best MOH/BM Speech & How to Nail It!
If you have been given the special honor of being someone's Maid of Honor or Best Man then you will most likely be asked to make a toast... Of course, if you're really anxious and making a speech in front of a crowd is too hard for you, then the couple, will understand and will not make you do it. These tips will help even the most anxious create a beautiful heartwarming speech and deliver it like a pro. What to say If you've known the couple for a while then thinking about what to say shouldn't be as hard. What is actually difficult for people to do is to put the words together and deliver it. The Opening Open with who you are and how you know the bride/groom. Not everyone is going to know each other at the wedding so letting people know the relationship will help them connect with you and what you're going to say next. Don't feel like you have to open with a joke. Weddings are such a beautiful and emotional time, so it is better to lead with a sentiment. What to say about the bride ( or groom if you're the best man). Share a brief story about what you love most about her/him. Always keep it positive. "She is the first one to help a friend in need" or "Dan will always answer his phone, no matter what time it is" Don't say negative things trying to be funny. It makes it sound like they have been trying forever to find the one. "She FINALLY met the man of her dreams!" or "Can you believe these two worked out after a one night stand?" Her Love Story ( His Love Story ) Briefly Share the story of how you knew she/he had met "The one" You can insert a funny story here. " I knew Joe was the one when Sally started watching football!" or "I knew Courtney was the one after Steve started lighting incense in our apartment" Don't, however, bring up any exes and how they are much better off with each other. This sends negative vibes and no one wants to hear anything about an ex or anything negative. " I knew Stacy was different when Ryan started hosting guys nights" "I knew Ryan was different when we stopped seeing Stacy as often" Grooms Turn ( or Bride's turn if the best man is making the speech) Talk about what you love about the groom/bride. "He's so sweet not only to Ally but also to her friends and family." Don't talk about how you wish they had a twin so you can date them. "If it doesn't work out between you guys, I'm available." That's a big no! no! Who to address during the toast Always address both of them. Don't make the speech about yourself and complain about how much you're going to miss your best friend. It sounds like you're not happy for them. Stay Charming Wish them wonderful things for their future. Don't abruptly end the speech. The End Don't forget your closer. Try not to ramble on and on. Have a distinct ending like a quote or lyrics to a song that pertains to the couple. Now that you've got the perfect speech... it's time for the delivery. 1. Write out what you're going to say in phrases. If you're afraid to forget something or afraid to freeze while up there, then write out the speech word for word. 2. Keep it short and sweet. Try to keep the speech between a minute or a minute and a half. Definitely no longer than two minutes. You will lose everyone's attention and if the toast is being done before dinner is served, then people will be HANgry or ready to dance! 3. Read your toast out loud. This will help with memorizing it and with editing. 4. Speak slowly but not too slow. When people are nervous they tend to rush through things. 5. Don't forget to breathe. 6. Stay Sober. I know what you're thinking... Seriously, Von? Yea... dead serious. The day of the wedding is super busy, but there's always time for Mimosa's. Drink up, but make sure to sober up a little for your speech. Nothing is worse than a drunk toast. 7. Make eye contact. If that makes you uncomfortable, try gazing over the guests' heads. That gives the impression that you are looking at them. 8. Smile! 9. It's ok to get emotional! 10. Most importantly...Speak from the heart! Wife and mother of two young children, Von Marie Moniz is the Event Planner and Owner of Lovely Events by Von. Clients love her bubbly personality and attention to detail. Planning is what she does, relaxing and enjoying yourself is what you will be doing when you hire Von for your next event. #bestman #maidofhonor #bride #groom #speech #toast #wedding #weddingparty #bridalparty #bridesmaids #weddingtoast #diy #howto