Finding Your Tribe

"Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one." - Jane Howard, Margaret Mead I spent a wonderful evening with some amazing Mompreneurs the other night. Every time I leave a Pepperlane event, I leave feeling incredibly inspired and empowered. Through this Pepperlane Community, I have been able to find my #BossMom Tribe... ... now, I'm not saying that everyone that came before my new found group of friends is not as important. I love all of my friends, just as much, if not more, as the years go on. We've built memories and share experiences that we haven't with others. But, In this group of Mompreneurs, I have found an amazing group of businesswomen who also happen to be mothers! To me, that is so incredible. When I get together with these particular group of women we are able to encourage and support each other, while our children cause havoc behind us. We understand the struggles of trying to build a business empire, while balancing life at home. Everyone deserves and needs that kind of support. Here's how you can find yours too! 1. What kind of tribe do you want to be part of? Think about it. What needs do you need fulfilled? Are you a new mom? Are you a stay at home mom? Are you newly divorced? What kind of support and friendships are you looking for? 2. Set realistic expectations. If you're a mom, go for other moms. They know the struggles more than a single lady friend would. Still consider your single friends, but they may start to get bored with the staying in for wine and movies kind or routines. You can't expect them to want to do that every night. 3. Put yourself out there. Join relevant groups like the PTA or Facebook groups. Don't be afraid. Make sure that you are introducing yourself and be open to this new community. 4.Make plans and keep them. If you're looking for mom friends, you know their time is valuable. Don't make plans just to cancel. You definitely should be putting in your part too. 5. No judging but empower instead. No one is perfect. If someone is going through something that may be silly to you, but clearly very traumatizing for them, build their spirit up. 6. Stay true to yourself. 7. Building long lasting friendships takes some effort. You cannot expect to join a group and have people flock your way without even posting an introduction or anything. They don't know you're there. Same thing on the playground. You can't sit and wait for the other parents to come talk to you. You want to: Build a connection early on. Whether it happens right away, or in a couple of days. You will eventually get there but you can't give up. Follow up shortly after. Keep the connection alive and show your interest. "Hey it was so nice meeting you at the networking event the other day!" Make it work. Make the commitment to get together on certain days. Pencil them in and don't forget about your plans. Open up. Don't be afraid to get into those deep conversations. Once they see that you are opening up, they will too. Making new friends can be hard. Especially after having children. You will lose a lot of friends and you will start feeling lonely. Finding a supportive group of like minded people will help you get out of that funk and create new long lasting friendships. Wife and mother of two young children, Von Marie Moniz is the Event Planner and Owner of Lovely Events by Von. Clients love her bubbly personality and attention to detail. Planning is what she does, relaxing and enjoying yourself is what you will be doing when you hire Von for your next event. #tribe #findyourself #loveyourself #findatribe #beyondtheplanning #weddingplanner #partyplanner #eventplanner #motivation #strenght #empowering #empowerment

Finding Your Tribe