How to avoid Family Drama All While Planning Your Wedding.
Family drama during wedding planning is almost always a guarantee. Whether it is over something silly, or something very serious, something will almost always come up. There’s so much stress surrounding this big event that the smallest thing will become an issue. Feelings get hurt and family members will often forget whose day it is and what this day is all about. Going into the planning process aware and prepared of issues that may arise will help you handle the stress and the situation a little better. One of the biggest stress, Parents! Communication is key. They may want you to include someone or something that you or your partner do not want to do. They will tell you why they think it’s a good idea but it’s important for you to voice your concerns and reasoning behind why you don’t want to do something. Try to meet them halfway but if it’s something that can’t be met halfway, then it’s OK to say no and stick to your guns. Divorced/remarried couples If your parents are divorced and things aren’t really good between them, then that can be extremely stressful all on its own. Traditionally, parents are sat together at the same table but in this case, sit them at two different tables. Have a serious conversation and remind them that they need to be on their best behavior for this one night. If you have a close relationship with both your stepfather and father and really want to be walked down the aisle by both men, then do it. The best way to take care of this situation, is by either having both of them walk you down the aisle at the same time or by having one walk you down to the middle to hand you off to the other who then will walk you down to the end to meet your soon to be spouse. Family involvement in the wedding One example would be your parents or future in laws wanting to invite more guests than you want to invite. (For example, inviting your second cousin that you haven’t spoken to in years.) Explain why you have decided not to invite them and ask them to please respect your wishes. Sometimes, another issue is the family members expecting to automatically be part of the wedding. Don’t have your cousin in the bridal party if you don’t want to. Instead, offer her a reading or the job of introducing guests to each other. If you have a stepbrother that you don’t really get along with, have them be an usher instead. This is one way to still have them involved in some way, but not enough that it will get you too frustrated. You do have to keep in mind that feelings may get hurt,., but it won’t last forever and if it does, it’s their loss for being so silly. It’s not about them. When family doesn’t get along. This can definitely be a tricky and a sticky situation. Keep them separated and away from each other as much as you can. Have someone in your bridal party take care of this, you shouldn’t have to worry about these issues on this beautiful day. Have a talk and let them know that they will need to be on their best behavior or they will get kicked out. Whose name goes on the invitation? Traditionally both sets of parents are put on the wedding invitation. “Mr. and Mrs. Mom and Dad and Mr. and Mrs. Mom in law and Dad in law request the honor of your presence at the wedding of…” If you have divorced or remarried parents and you are close to everyone then deciding on who’s name to put on the invite can get a little stressful.To alleviate some stress Write everyone’s name on the invite. If you have children or even a fur baby, put down their name instead or Just have you and your partner on the invite. Unwanted guests Just say no. If it is a guest being requested by your parents, then have your parents pay for the plate, if there is room for one or two more and if you’re OK with this but If you absolutely do not want someone there, the best way to deal is to just be upfront and say no. Always remember that it is... ♥Your wedding ♥Take care of yourself first. That will help you prepare for all of the stress and BS that will come your way during planning. ♥Figure out your priorities and must haves for your wedding. ♥Let everyone know your expectations and ♥Have a heart to heart with the closest people to you. ♥Be honest. Be transparent. Hear them out, but make your voice heard and stay strong! xoxo Happy Planning! Wife and mother of two young children, Von Marie Moniz is the Event Planner and Owner of Lovely Events by Von. Clients love her bubbly personality and attention to detail. Planning is what she does, relaxing and enjoying yourself is what you will be doing when you hire Von for your next event. #2018 #party #weddingguest #guest #engagement #groomsmen #groomsman #motivation #couples #whatnottosay #eventsmanagement #events #home #bridesmaids #bridalparty #groom #howto #bride #strenght #tricks #lost #weddinghelp #drama #family #dispute #avoidingfamilydrama #weddingplanning #diy #stress #divorce #remarried #parents #familyfeud #familyinvolvrment #unwantedguest #invitations #no #communication