The Working Momma: Balancing Life, Kids and Work.
Mommy!.... ...The best title and job in the whole wide world! Everyone tells you how much life is going to change after you become a parent. Your heart will be so full, you’ll cry, laugh, and have days where you literally want to rip your hair out. But what you don’t hear about too often, is women successfully transitioning back in to the workforce. In fact, a lot of women end up having to stay at home, or working a part time job. This is exactly what happened with me. After having my first child, I decided to stay home. We could kind of afford it at the time, so we did it. About a year later, I decided to go back to school wanting a better life for my daughter. My husband worked over nights while I worked during the day and that seemed to work for a little while. Eventually, baby number two came around. I had a great job and our first born was old enough to go to preschool and after staying home with both kids for eight weeks, I was excited to get back to work and actually have some adult conversations! What I wasn’t expecting however, was to experience so many conflicting emotions. I felt excitement, fear, nervousness, guilt and sadness all at the same time! I felt the excitement of being able to have adult conversations. I felt the fear and nervousness because nobody takes care of baby like mommies do. I was worried whether the kids were on schedule or watching too much tv. I felt guilty because the kids were going to miss me, but I felt the sadness because in reality, I was missing my kids probably more then they missed me and I wanted to be with them. I didn’t want to miss out on anything. I know I’m not alone... The Feels: How do you cope? Maternity Leave is coming to an end and anxiety and fear starts to set in. Not about leaving your baby, but about returning back to work, and going back to a huge pile of paperwork or changes that everyone else has already adapted to, but you just recently learned about. You may be so focused on the workload anxiety that you don't enjoy the last few days with your baby! Best way to cope is to stay present... or try to! Once you get back to work, and you get back into a routine, you'll be grateful for the mini break you got, and although it never feels like enough, you'll still be able to reminisce on all the fun memories you created and how much lovin' you'll be receiving once you get home! It doesn't end with excitement, guilt and fear. You'll also feel overwhelmed, lost and sometimes even depressed but struggling with all of these emotions is something that a lot of us working moms experience after maternity leave is over. There is no right or wrong way to deal. We all handle it differently but the important thing to remember is that you were your own person before you became a mom. It is so important to keep that in mind and to continue taking care of YOU! Often times we put ourselves on the back burner and forget about all of our goals and aspirations that we had before we became parents. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it’s not a good thing either. Even though my youngest is almost two, I still get the guilty feeling when I drop him off at daycare ( which is only twice a week! ) but I keep myself busy at work, and I know that when I get home and see those two little faces, they'll give me the best hugs ever and we can spend the rest of the night cuddling on the couch! The trick to coping and finally feeling some sense of relief is to find yourself a tribe that you can lean on. Whenever you’re feeling any of these feelings, talk about it with a fellow mom who has been through this or currently going through it. Don’t be afraid to open up. You’d be surprised on how good it feels to express your feelings to someone else that understands. They'll encourage you and remind you that you need to have fun to! just because you're going on a girls trip, doesn't make you a bad mom. Don’t be afraid to have a mommy night out because a happy and healthy mommy means a happy and healthy family. You’ve got this! Wife and mother of two young children, Von Marie Moniz is the Event Planner and Owner of Lovely Events by Von. Clients love her bubbly personality and attention to detail. Planning is what she does, relaxing and enjoying yourself is what you will be doing when you hire Von for your next event. #sahm #working #workingmom #maternityleave #returningtowork #mom #kids #children #love #daycare #balance #life #parents #dad #father #mother #emotions #depressio #depression #feelings #feels #notalone