What Not to Say to Couples Getting Married.
It might sound silly, but it happens all too often. There's a lot of people that will say things without thinking. They aren't always trying to start something, they just really don't understand what they are doing wrong. That being said.... ... you may come across that person doing or saying something "rude" that they say was not meant to be rude. There's some haters out there, but the joke is on them because everyone around them already knows that they ARE being rude, and this is why noone likes to invite them to anything. If you happen to encounter one of these people, here are some questions that they might ask, and here's how to deal with them. 1. I'm invited right? This is the number one question that people will ask once they find out you're engaged or have set a date. This causes instant pressure and anxiety for the couple and honestly, it is the last thing on your mind at the moment. You can always answer with a "We'll see...(insert smile) " "Tight budget, tight guest list..." "We both have a really big family...." or be completely honest and say... "Uhmmm.... No(insert glare)" 2. How much did all this cost? "NONE-YA!" is how you should answer! None of your business because you didn't pay for any of this sooo....#Bye. Planning a wedding is financially stressful and on the day of your wedding, or any day for that matter, is definitely not the time to bring up financial stress. Kindly let them know this, give them a smile, then walk away. 3. You look so tired! uhmm... yea, I just spent the last two years working my butt off and getting no sleep because I was so stressed out about paying for this! so yes! I am stressed, but please don't point it out! 4. Bridesmaids :"I'm not wearing that" I completely understand that we are all self conscious about something but you can't tell a bride that you're not doing/wearing something for her wedding. You will be replaced. A great bride will take your insecurities into consideration, of course, but maybe say it in a different way. Sit the bride down and explain how you feel in the dress. Maybe you will find a middle ground but if the bride says this is what you're going to wear then you can either accept it, or kindly step back and let her know you can no longer be pat of the bridal party! 5. "I spent a lot of money to get here..." When your invite comes in the mail you have everything you need to know on the invitation. The couple understands that getting the time off, and getting the money together might be a little stressful but, the stress should not be placed on the couples. They KNOW how much you spent, and what you had to do to join them on their special day, and trust me, they appreciate it! So don't make them feel bad for wanting you to join them on one of the best days of their lives. If you truly don't think you'll be able to swing it, then kindly reply back with a No, Thank you. 6.Are you sure you want to eat that? I know you're trying to be a great friend, but the bride has been planning this wedding for so many months/years, let her indulge just a little. And Yes! I KNOW that she asked you to slap that cake out of her mouth because she needs to fit into this dress but as a BM or MOH, maybe come up with alternatives for her instead. 7. When are you guys having kids? The best way to deal with this question is to just let them know that you're just trying to get through this wedding, or through these next couple of years stress free and kids will come at a later date! 8. "It's ok" When the couple asks you if you're having fun? you lie and you say yes, even if you're not having fun. If you're having an issue with a vendor, food, or anything at the venue, seek out the venue coordinator for help. The couple has spent so much time and effort into putting everything together. They want their guests to enjoy themselves. They would be really upset to hear that you're not having fun. 9. "I hope it's cool if I invite my friends!?" No, it's not cool! If you are no longer bringing your original plus one, then feel free to ask the couple if it's ok to bring someone else. This is their wedding and they should at least know the name of the person that you are bringing. They will most likely say yes to the new guest, but it is of course, up to them and what they want to do. 10. "Whatever makes you happy" If the bride is asking for your opinion, it's because she really wants to know. It's ok to be honest. Ultimately she will go with whatever she wants to do, but listening to your input will help her brainstorm and decide on what she wants to do. If you've been invited to a wedding, or if you have the honor of being part of a wedding, please make sure that you try to think before you speak. It is so easy to get caught up in our own feelings but this is their day and whatever you can to destress the bride/groom would be so much helpful! Don't forget to have fun in the process. There's going to be a few bumps in the road, but that's just it... little bumps in the road that you get over and all is well once you get over them! Just have fun, and they'll have fun too ☺️ Wife and mother of two young children, Von Marie Moniz is the Event Planner and Owner of Lovely Events by Von. Clients love her bubbly personality and attention to detail. Planning is what she does, relaxing and enjoying yourself is what you will be doing when you hire Von for your next event. #whatnottosay #brides #grooms #couples #bridesmaids #bride #groom #maidofhonor #bestman #groomsman #groomsmen #bridalparty #diy #weddingplanner #planner #weddings #engaged #engagement #bridetobe #husband #wife #guest #weddingguest #party